We’re all busy and important. So when are you going to find time to pencil in a love life?
Sunday is bike-riding day. Monday’s jog and gym day ( and occasionally a coffee afterwards with a friend).
Wednesday is pay-day market and grocery shopping. Thursday is dinner with friends.
Friday after-work drinks with workmates. Saturday is sleep-in followed by hangover brunch followed by visiting mum and dad by going out to dinner and a gig with friends.
So when you are you going to find time to pencil in a relationship?
For many busy and important singles, their social life is smothering their love life

SCHEDULE HAPPINESS

It’s always exciting meeting with someone you hit it off with. You swap numbers, someone calls the other someone and you make date.
That’s where busy people hit the social brick wall.
“Yeah I’d like to catch up. No Wednesday’s no good and weekends are booked up for me for the next three weeks. I could do the following Wednesday though? You have something on? OK, how about the Thursday, no next week Thursday, the Thursday after that – two weeks?”
It’s not exactly the way to start a beautiful friendship.
You need to give yourself some wiggle room.
If you like the person, you will make the time to see them sooner rather than later.
Still think you’re too busy?
US President Barack Obama (he’s a pretty busy bloke) sets aside some “Michelle time” each day. And look at KerrBloom-Miranda and Orlando. Busy, important and able to make time to see each other.

NEXT PROBLEM

So, you made some wiggle room and you’ve even found some time to wiggle together.
But making time for love is not just an issue for singles.
Like attracts like, which ,means busy, active, sociable people often tend to hook up with other busy, active and sociable people.
And between all the lovey-dovey wiggling, the social engagements suddenly double.
You’re in a couple now, and there’s twice as many dinners/birthdays/shows/family dos to get to. Suddenly your Sunday bike ride and Monday yoga class are memories and you’re struggling to find any time for yourself or even to spend as a couple.
If not managed, this can put strain on a relationship in its vulnerable early stages.
It’s crucial that couples spend one-on-one time together in the courtship and getting-serious phase so they can get to know each other and build trust and a connection.
Time together, time alone, time with your friends, time with friends as a couple. It adds up to a lot of time.
SO how can it be managed?
Naked diary sessions are a fun way to start.
During your diary session, pick one night a week that you can both agree on to be your regular date night for just the two of you.
This way, when making your own social plans, you’ll know not to schedule anything else on that night.
In the early stages of a relationship, try fun, novel things together – it takes the pressure off having to hold an entire conversation over dinner.

REMEMBER YOU

The other things to remember is to maintain your individuality. You don’t have to to everything together.
In fact, it’s better to be a bit unavailable now and then.
You need to maintain a sense of independence.
Keep doing the things you’ve always done for yourself-classes, me time, nights out with friends.
This gives you a chance to miss your new beau and a chance to talk about them with your friends.

When a woman paid more than a man? When she is single, according to the latest figures. “Pay gap” has found that the difference in earnings for men and women in their 20’s is “non-existent”.
And women who choose to stay single earn more than single men throughout their lives.
The breakdown, publishes by the Office of National Statistics, showed women matched men in the pay stakes from when they left university until they reached 30 – the point at which, on average, a woman had her first baby.
The real pay gap comes after women have their children and many decide either to give up careers or ease back on work.
The figures refute claims of a 17 per cent pay gap between the sexes and economist. People earn the same until they get together, and they make choices about work, family and lifestyle.
In reality, the pay advantage lies with women and the whole pay gap debate should stop now.
The British Government’s Equality and Human Rights Commission insists the pay gap does exist and that it reflects discrimination against women.
One of the major cause of pay gap, beyond the concern about women and men who are paid different rates for the same job, is the fact that they choose low-skill, part-time jobs after they have children.

First Commenter

Who could forget when Cher sang her 1989 hit If I Could Turn Back Time in that revealing and controversial fishnet body stocking, climbing provocatively on an extremely large cannon barrel on a ship filled with horny sailors?
The title of the song has since become a staple phrase in our vernacular and is one of the most widely used cliches in the English language along with “there is no time like the present”.
I, for one, am guilty of living in the past and thinking, “if only I could turn back time” far too often in my daily life.
This phrase, it seems, also arises in the dating world isn’t it?
On a recent visit on my friendster, I caught up with some old schoolfriends I hadn’t seen in nearly ten years. To my astonishment this phrase came blurting out when I read one of the messages with a deep and meaningful with one of the guys I went to school with.
Yes, that’s right, he confessed he was in love with me when we were at school and still carried a torch for me.
I know what you’re thinking, so what? Well, he confessed this to me nearly ten years too late; when we’re both in a long-term relationship.
Talk about bad timing. I felt a caboodle of emotions. Part of me was shocked because I always had a little crush on him before, too, but devastated at the same time. What’s the point of the confession? I’m happily married and contented with my life. Hope he does too as I didn’t communicate with him to avoid conflict.
Why had we waited so long to disclose this? Of course it was an ego boost but frustrating as well. Why do we have so much trouble opening up to people?
Is embarrassment and fear of rejection worse than spending our whole lives thinking what could have been?
Time is not our friend. While some people wait years to pick up the courage to tell their crushes their true feelings, others can do it instantly, but at what cost?
The fear of standing naked, feelings exposed, means we always seem to act when it’s too late.
We are all searching for a soul mate. That very person could slip through your fingers if you falter. So what if you get rejected? At least you’ll know where you stand and not spend your life thinking “what if?”
So carpe diem and grasp life with both hands.

Ah, the ecstasy of love. Who wants to settle for anything less? From the first second of our first major crush, ecstasy is what we hope for and dream of, that on-top-of-the-world, giddy, whirly, zingy-zangy kaboom of a feeling that squeezes your heart and blows your mind and leaves you wanting to shout to the world, I AM SO IN LOVE SO CRAZY COMPLETELY IN LOVE! Or something like that.
Truth is, real ecstasy leaves us so overwhelmingly happy we’re usually rendered speechless. We want to express our wild, hungry, joy, especially to the person we love, but “I love you” seems so serious and standard, and beyond that, what’s left? “You rock”? “Oh baby”? “Gee, I think we’re really compatible”? Ecstasy feels so HUGE, and words can seem so small.
That’s why for my future post I am going to filled it with the most gorgeous, passion-packed love poems I could find and create to help you articulate the ecstasy you feel. You can recite one of these next anniversary, or slip a copy into Valentine’s Day card, and you’ll melt the heart of your beloved.
Or read poems by yourself when you just want to feel all warm and sappy about the great love of your life. Poems that indulge in, like hotfudges sundaes or bubble baths or full-body massage.
Because – don’t kid yourself – ecstasy comes and goes in a long-term love relationship (good luck and feeling blissful about the holey underwear! the ESPN addiction! the secret porn stash!). You’ve got to relish the passion while you’ve got it. And even if you have one of those moments, days, or months when you fear the romance has drained from your relationship, stop and read the Ecstasy poem. Let yourself remember how it felt – how it could still feel – to be intimately achingly in love with your partner.
Some poems maybe describe the breathless, unspoken (because we don’t quite know how to say it, and sometimes we’re scared to) longing to be part of the very fiber and soul of your lover. Poems that utters one long, run-on whisper of desire, so quite but so potent. The willingness of the hearts in unison. Expressing of wanting to be completely connected, physically and emotionally, as does the speaker in Pablo Neruda’s Sonnet XVII, who tells his over he wants to be “so close that your hand upon my chest is mine,/so close that your eyes close with my dreams.”

This is ecstasy at its most seriously romantic when the two of you exist in your own little world, when you’re overcome by that heart-tugging need for intimacy.
When we’re deep into the ecstasy of love, no closeness is close enough, we can’t bear to think that our partner could survive without us.
On the other hand, the desire for that kind of closeness is perfectly understandable and probably inevitable when you’re in ecstasy. You’re in a love stupor, utterly intoxicated by the sight, scent, and touch of your partner. On the other hand…yikes! Ecstasy can leave you teetering on the edge of neediness and insecurity. Too much of that heavy-duty “we’re the only two people in the world” business can suffocate even the most glorious romance. Who needs all the melancholy drama when you’re supposed to be wildly happy? As much as you want to be one with your lover in ecstasy, eventually you need to develop a little healthy awareness that you two are indeed separate – wild about each other, sure, but separate – individuals who live in a great, gig, wide world.
Roll your eyes, say we’re romanticizing the hell out of living with someone day in and day out. But how fun is it to read a really hot poem about married sex (or shall we say, sex between two people who have been committed to each other for a long time)? So many of us tend to think that ecstasy is something you experience only at the beg ginning of an affair. If you notice the poem “I want” by author Kim Konopka’s, the speaker in the poem can’t wait for her lover to move in, so that she can live her fantasy of playing house, of “cook(ing) naked and drunk,” with “kisses bitten between bites,”
If you’re lucky, you’ll experience that kind of love ecstasy moment that not only when you first fall in love, but throughout many years of being together. Well, since life isn’t always a Hollywood romantic comedy. But maybe, despite the ups and downs of long-term relations, every once in a while you’ll find yourself giddy, with desire for your partner, grateful for the chance to “take what we love inside,” to live from joy/to joy to joy…/from blossom to blossom to/impossible blossom, to sweet impossible blossom.

The question why some men are unable to commit has been answered – it’s in their genes.
Researchers have found that men with a common genetic “flaw” are less likely to marry even if they have children with a long-term partner.
Those who have tied the knot are twice as likely to be in a rocky marriage and to have discussed the possibility of divorce.
Scientists claim the gene, linked to the bonding chemical vasopressin, could explain the Casanova tendencies of some.