We’re all busy and important. So when are you going to find time to pencil in a love life?
Sunday is bike-riding day. Monday’s jog and gym day ( and occasionally a coffee afterwards with a friend).
Wednesday is pay-day market and grocery shopping. Thursday is dinner with friends.
Friday after-work drinks with workmates. Saturday is sleep-in followed by hangover brunch followed by visiting mum and dad by going out to dinner and a gig with friends.
So when you are you going to find time to pencil in a relationship?
For many busy and important singles, their social life is smothering their love life

SCHEDULE HAPPINESS

It’s always exciting meeting with someone you hit it off with. You swap numbers, someone calls the other someone and you make date.
That’s where busy people hit the social brick wall.
“Yeah I’d like to catch up. No Wednesday’s no good and weekends are booked up for me for the next three weeks. I could do the following Wednesday though? You have something on? OK, how about the Thursday, no next week Thursday, the Thursday after that – two weeks?”
It’s not exactly the way to start a beautiful friendship.
You need to give yourself some wiggle room.
If you like the person, you will make the time to see them sooner rather than later.
Still think you’re too busy?
US President Barack Obama (he’s a pretty busy bloke) sets aside some “Michelle time” each day. And look at KerrBloom-Miranda and Orlando. Busy, important and able to make time to see each other.

NEXT PROBLEM

So, you made some wiggle room and you’ve even found some time to wiggle together.
But making time for love is not just an issue for singles.
Like attracts like, which ,means busy, active, sociable people often tend to hook up with other busy, active and sociable people.
And between all the lovey-dovey wiggling, the social engagements suddenly double.
You’re in a couple now, and there’s twice as many dinners/birthdays/shows/family dos to get to. Suddenly your Sunday bike ride and Monday yoga class are memories and you’re struggling to find any time for yourself or even to spend as a couple.
If not managed, this can put strain on a relationship in its vulnerable early stages.
It’s crucial that couples spend one-on-one time together in the courtship and getting-serious phase so they can get to know each other and build trust and a connection.
Time together, time alone, time with your friends, time with friends as a couple. It adds up to a lot of time.
SO how can it be managed?
Naked diary sessions are a fun way to start.
During your diary session, pick one night a week that you can both agree on to be your regular date night for just the two of you.
This way, when making your own social plans, you’ll know not to schedule anything else on that night.
In the early stages of a relationship, try fun, novel things together – it takes the pressure off having to hold an entire conversation over dinner.

REMEMBER YOU

The other things to remember is to maintain your individuality. You don’t have to to everything together.
In fact, it’s better to be a bit unavailable now and then.
You need to maintain a sense of independence.
Keep doing the things you’ve always done for yourself-classes, me time, nights out with friends.
This gives you a chance to miss your new beau and a chance to talk about them with your friends.

She always toes the line – he always breaks the rules. She likes rocking out in the mosh pit – he prefers chilled-out jazz and blues. She’s a morning person, he’s a night owl.
He is a couch-loving stoner, she’s a clean-living nut.
So how does these people get together? And, more to the point, how do they start together?
Experts agree that we’re attracted to the qualities of an “opposite” personality because they complete us, or balance us.

BOREDOM-FREE ZONED
Dating a carbon copy of yourself can be familiar and comfortable – you like the same food, music and style, and there’s never going to be fights for the remote control. But, after a while, it becomes a bit of yawn.
Opposite stimulate and challenge each other. There’s friction, passion and excitement which can all translate into long-term happiness.

DIFFERENT STROKES

But what happens when opposites clash (which they inevitably will?
According to a relationship consultant, each person needs to respect the other’s view, no matter how far removed it seems from their own.
Wanting your partner to agree with your look, stock and barrel smacks of control freak.
It’s OK to love one another and still have a difference of opinion. In fact, a couple can manage a lot of differences if they respect and listen to each other.
It’s when one asserts that the other is wrong that troubles appear.
Your differences aren’t the problem – it’s the way you treat one another.
For all their differences, opposites in successful relationships will almost always share core values – respect, trust, fidelity, attitudes to finances. The trick is to nurture what you have in common while staying open-minded and positive about your differences – however major they might be.
In the long run. being with an opposite can be good for the individual. It opens you both up to new experiences and perspectives.

We’ve all wondered about certain exes- where they are, what they’re up to – but would you use technology to keep tabs on them?
Is it cyber-snooping or just or just a healthy curiosity? A legal love-hunt or the beginning of a stalking addiction?
Read an article of a writer who talk to most people and according to her, they’ll admit to having Google an ex or two.

IN THE BEGINNING
You know how it is; you’re wondering how and where they are and suddenly you’re trawling through 80 pages of namesakes- IT specialists, basketball players and some university professor who’s just written a paper on a coldsore cure.
Never a quitter, you plough on and before you know it, you’re singed up as a fully fledged cyber-stalker.

CYBER SLEUTH
So, why is it so irresistible? Ideally it’s a low-risk, civilized way of sleuthing someone without them knowing about it.
It’s more challenging than Friends Reunited, but no investment is needed in terms of contact.
On the darker side, we run the risk of discovering (if we still care) that out erstwhile lovers’ lives didn’t stop when we/they kicked them/us out.

NO NEWS IS GOOD NEWS
Googling barely confirms someone’s existence. So what if we draw an absolute blank?
Some said it’s always quite satisfying when you don’t actually find anything. Others gone online a few times to look up a particular lowlife who adid the dirty on them and then finding nothing on them sort of confirming to herself that no what a no-mark loser the other party was.

HIT AND MISS
Which implies there’s some sort of kudos attached to a Google hit.
Not always so.
According to a 29 years old woman, “I googled my ex and found a story from a local paper about him being convicted for drug offenses and burglary, which was sad, but not exactly a surprise.”
Googling “the one who got away” can become dangerous, especially if it becomes an obsession.
It’s one thing to find out, say, that he’s recently been on a charity trek to India or to look up his holiday snaps.
It’s quite another if you start Googling him daily.

FATAL ATTRACTION
A computer-savvy marketing manager is ashamed to say she’s gone even further.
“I found myself digging up information on a gorgeous bloke I had a torrid fling with and his girlfriend. I discovered photos of her and became obsessed. Then I figured out a way of deleting the pictures from the website.”
But be careful – what seems like an innocent search might open a painful can of worms if unreconciled feelings still lurk.
Another girl got a shock when she was Googled by her first true love.
“We’d been together for a few years when I was 16, but it all ended when he two-timed me with my best-friend.
“I moved away and started running a business.
“He tracked me down last year via my website and we met. He said the day day I dumped him was the worst day of his life. It blew my mind, but we’re both married with kids and it’s in the past.”

BLOG OFF
And what of the boom in blogging, where people choose to lay bare their innermost workings for public consumption?
For a guy, who was 30, it was a case of too much information.
“I googled my (now) ex-girlfriend when were still together. She had a blog and to my horror was talking about what a jerk I was and how she banging on about how good the sex with the other person,” a guy said.
It all goes to show that, when we Google, we might find out a few things we didn’t bargain for.
Let’s face it, there’s nothing wrong with casually looking up on an old flame to see what’s happened to them.
But if you’re still feeling bitter, sad or obsessed, you could develop an e-stalking habit what’s hard to break.
In which case: switch off that machine, build a bridge and just get over it.

She is Princess Pairat, 22 years old, single mom. She’s my cousin. I was shock with the news that she gave birth and her boyfriend totally abandoned her. She is raised with a single mother working in a knitting factory but no clear income. Her mother has a big goiter (thyroid on the neck). I’m trying to save money for her operation but it’s not easy because I am a family woman with three kids and we are not rich. We just settled her in Australia and affected with global recession.

Princess tried her best to have a good future. Staying from one relative to another but it seems things are not on her side. She all the time don’t get a good treatment. She felt in love with a man who helped her, support her but used her in exchange. Sorry for my words but this is what I think. They were good in the beginning. They helped each other and even studied in one University. University of Cebu. The guy was nursing and Princess get a tourism course. I don’t know how she survived for a year. The man is like her world at that time. She gave everything. Princess never grow with the love of a father. Her parents separated when she was still a baby and now has another family but also don’t have a good life.  She got supported in small ways by her family including me. The rest  from his beloved man.

Until time came that she got pregnant. Problem started to arise between their good relationship. I forgot to mention that their love was against all odds. Her man’s parents as well as other relatives don’t like her so they were hiding their relationships. His parents will pull him out from the school if they find out that they’re still together. He can’t fight for Princess so he hide her to continue to study and get allowance. Princess has a part-time job while she’s studying. In short, working student. The name of his boyfriend is RC. I want to condemn this guy for his cowardliness in times that he needed much but it’s not in my hands to condemn. Sorry for my words. He wanted his son to be aborted or else he will abandon them both. He was scared because his parents might abandon him and stopped sending him to school. My cousin had a second thought and asked our opinions. Of course we don’t want her to kill such innocent child. She decided to pursue the baby and her boyfriend totally left her with nothing but heartache.

With her whole nine months of pregnancy, she kept on transferring from one relative to another again until end up with her mother. She can’t take anymore how people look at her and accusing her, blaming her etc2x instead of supporting her. She traveled when she’s seven months pregnant from Bohol to Manila Philippines through trucking. She lived with her mother in the factory where she worked and paid P100 per night or 5 dollars US currency. It’s a big money for my aunt because she didn’t earn much and her work is not regular. They don’t even have savings for the her delivery. Yeah what a hard life.

Last week, they traveled to Batangas Province to stay with her brother until she gave birth and she’s already on due. She has two brothers who were all married. Unfortunately don’t have a good life too. She can’t give birth in the small room on the factory. I saw the place and yeah it’s impossible plus they have to pay per head each night. When they arrived at Batangas Phillipines, she started to feel pain. Maybe because of traveling far with her situation was not really good. So they called a midwife. She was supposed to give birth just at home but the danger of giving a first birth is unavoidable. The baby didn’t came out at expected time and she was already so weak and the baby as well. The rushed her to the nearest hospital. Because of all the tensions, they didn’t even think it was a private hospital. She can’t have a normal labor because the baby’s head already swell. Doctors at Madonna General Hospital did an immediate CS Delivery for their safety which charged them all in all P45,000.00 or more than $2000. What big money for people who didn’t even have a savings. The important is the baby and Princess is safe now. Baby’s name is Prince Philly. We contributed money to help them but money raised was not enough. They only raised P12,000.00 or $500+. They still need P22,000.00 or $1000+. They can’t be released in the hospital until they’ll be able to settle their bills. They were supposed to be released the other day. The more they stay long at the hospital, the more their bills goes up. The father of the baby didn’t even care and now denied the baby was his. Only God knows with this kind of people.

I want to extend my help just for them to be released at the Madonna General Hospital, 153 Antorcha St. Balayan Batangas Philippines. Tel. No 043-9122422. But I don’t know how?

Women increase their chances of being lucky in love if they avoid sleeping with men on the first date, scientists say.

Using a mathematical model, researchers have shown that lengthy courtships evolved to allow women to week out unreliable partners.
Prof Robert Seymour, of University College London, used a branch of maths called game theory to explore the dating rituals of men and women.
The findings mirror the advice given to generations of women by agony aunts, big sisters and close friends.
His model is based on the idea that women have the most to lose from any new relationship because they can end up with a baby fathered by an inappropriate – or even absent – father.

It assumes courtship is a battle between the sexes, with both sides compromising on the point in the developing relationship where they have sex.
A male’s willingness to court for a long time is a signal that he is likely to be a ‘good’ male.
Long courtship is a price paid for increasing the chance that mating, if it occurs, will be a harmonious match which benefits both sexes.
This may help you to explain the commonly held belief that a woman is best advised not to sleep with a man on a first date.
The model doesn’t work so well in a society where contraception removes much of the risk of pregnancy. It also ignores social and peer-group pressures on men and women.
It helps how the extended courtship of humans may have evolved in prehistoric societies tens of thousands of years ago.