We’re all busy and important. So when are you going to find time to pencil in a love life?
Sunday is bike-riding day. Monday’s jog and gym day ( and occasionally a coffee afterwards with a friend).
Wednesday is pay-day market and grocery shopping. Thursday is dinner with friends.
Friday after-work drinks with workmates. Saturday is sleep-in followed by hangover brunch followed by visiting mum and dad by going out to dinner and a gig with friends.
So when you are you going to find time to pencil in a relationship?
For many busy and important singles, their social life is smothering their love life

SCHEDULE HAPPINESS

It’s always exciting meeting with someone you hit it off with. You swap numbers, someone calls the other someone and you make date.
That’s where busy people hit the social brick wall.
“Yeah I’d like to catch up. No Wednesday’s no good and weekends are booked up for me for the next three weeks. I could do the following Wednesday though? You have something on? OK, how about the Thursday, no next week Thursday, the Thursday after that – two weeks?”
It’s not exactly the way to start a beautiful friendship.
You need to give yourself some wiggle room.
If you like the person, you will make the time to see them sooner rather than later.
Still think you’re too busy?
US President Barack Obama (he’s a pretty busy bloke) sets aside some “Michelle time” each day. And look at KerrBloom-Miranda and Orlando. Busy, important and able to make time to see each other.

NEXT PROBLEM

So, you made some wiggle room and you’ve even found some time to wiggle together.
But making time for love is not just an issue for singles.
Like attracts like, which ,means busy, active, sociable people often tend to hook up with other busy, active and sociable people.
And between all the lovey-dovey wiggling, the social engagements suddenly double.
You’re in a couple now, and there’s twice as many dinners/birthdays/shows/family dos to get to. Suddenly your Sunday bike ride and Monday yoga class are memories and you’re struggling to find any time for yourself or even to spend as a couple.
If not managed, this can put strain on a relationship in its vulnerable early stages.
It’s crucial that couples spend one-on-one time together in the courtship and getting-serious phase so they can get to know each other and build trust and a connection.
Time together, time alone, time with your friends, time with friends as a couple. It adds up to a lot of time.
SO how can it be managed?
Naked diary sessions are a fun way to start.
During your diary session, pick one night a week that you can both agree on to be your regular date night for just the two of you.
This way, when making your own social plans, you’ll know not to schedule anything else on that night.
In the early stages of a relationship, try fun, novel things together – it takes the pressure off having to hold an entire conversation over dinner.

REMEMBER YOU

The other things to remember is to maintain your individuality. You don’t have to to everything together.
In fact, it’s better to be a bit unavailable now and then.
You need to maintain a sense of independence.
Keep doing the things you’ve always done for yourself-classes, me time, nights out with friends.
This gives you a chance to miss your new beau and a chance to talk about them with your friends.

Women increase their chances of being lucky in love if they avoid sleeping with men on the first date, scientists say.

Using a mathematical model, researchers have shown that lengthy courtships evolved to allow women to week out unreliable partners.
Prof Robert Seymour, of University College London, used a branch of maths called game theory to explore the dating rituals of men and women.
The findings mirror the advice given to generations of women by agony aunts, big sisters and close friends.
His model is based on the idea that women have the most to lose from any new relationship because they can end up with a baby fathered by an inappropriate – or even absent – father.

It assumes courtship is a battle between the sexes, with both sides compromising on the point in the developing relationship where they have sex.
A male’s willingness to court for a long time is a signal that he is likely to be a ‘good’ male.
Long courtship is a price paid for increasing the chance that mating, if it occurs, will be a harmonious match which benefits both sexes.
This may help you to explain the commonly held belief that a woman is best advised not to sleep with a man on a first date.
The model doesn’t work so well in a society where contraception removes much of the risk of pregnancy. It also ignores social and peer-group pressures on men and women.
It helps how the extended courtship of humans may have evolved in prehistoric societies tens of thousands of years ago.

Being single gives you the freedom to have more friends. It’s not that couples or those who are tied up to relationships have no freedom at all to make friends. It’s probably just limited. In a single life, making friends without the restrictions. This allows for more choices of whom you want to make friends with.
In the online scene, this allows for freedom to chat with pretty much anyone you like. You can chat with Asians in local dating and even those of different cultures. The possibilities are just endless when you have this much freedom. I have a friend who is recently busy dating and trying to meet her local match in a certain local personals dating site. She just joined couple of weeks ago and she was very amazed of the number of men who wanted to date her in person. She’s gorgeous and good girl with an odd married life experienced.  Already divorced of course. She doesn’t prefer for a man who doesn’t have kids because according to her, they don’t understand the feeling of a parents. She is determined to meet her soul mate online. Hope she will find the one.

I wasn’t expecting anything special today. I thought it would be just like the ordinary Friday but it’s not. Worthy to said “Thanks God it’s Friday”! When I wake up this morning, hubby was so busy in the kitchen. I heard him washing clothes, doing all the things for the kids going to school. I looked at my watch and I’m wondering why he was still at home and not gone to office for work. He just called me and asked what time I’m going to drop our youngest at childcare learning centre. I said when it’s half past quarter eight. And he said, if you’re going to take a bath, you got to move now and have your breakfast because we’re going to watch movie. My eyes widened! We’re going out for a movie date? A pre-valentines date! A date just the two of us for first time. I mean for the first time since we’re living here in Australia. We used to go out every Friday night back in our country but here no because no one would look after our kids. Since all our children are going to school, we got a chance to go out just the two of us. I was so excited and happy of course. I love these things even not too often. It doesn’t need to be always. But I don’t want our relationship to dried out and be boring and be pre-occupied by works and children.

He filed a leave of absent just to spend the day with me out for movie, lunch and shopping. He’s not feeling well but he was fine. I really appreciate it. We watched the Movie entitled “He’s Not That Into You” and that was very cute, funny, sweet and romantic all-star cast movie. We had lunched at “Wagamama” and the food was awesome. We didn’t spend our day long out because we have to pick our kids at school by 3:30 PM. We had a pretty good enough time though. We bought some kitchen and home stuff. I’m really happy. Romantic date with candlelight dinner plus flowers and sweet music is not my thing. It’s sounds corny to me. Maybe awkward. A time for us to be happy is more than enough. Maybe some of you think I’m a super sweet, romantic and clingy woman and demanding? That’s a big no! And that’s another story to tell. As for now, I’m inspired and happy wifey.

Who could forget when Cher sang her 1989 hit If I Could Turn Back Time in that revealing and controversial fishnet body stocking, climbing provocatively on an extremely large cannon barrel on a ship filled with horny sailors?
The title of the song has since become a staple phrase in our vernacular and is one of the most widely used cliches in the English language along with “there is no time like the present”.
I, for one, am guilty of living in the past and thinking, “if only I could turn back time” far too often in my daily life.
This phrase, it seems, also arises in the dating world isn’t it?
On a recent visit on my friendster, I caught up with some old schoolfriends I hadn’t seen in nearly ten years. To my astonishment this phrase came blurting out when I read one of the messages with a deep and meaningful with one of the guys I went to school with.
Yes, that’s right, he confessed he was in love with me when we were at school and still carried a torch for me.
I know what you’re thinking, so what? Well, he confessed this to me nearly ten years too late; when we’re both in a long-term relationship.
Talk about bad timing. I felt a caboodle of emotions. Part of me was shocked because I always had a little crush on him before, too, but devastated at the same time. What’s the point of the confession? I’m happily married and contented with my life. Hope he does too as I didn’t communicate with him to avoid conflict.
Why had we waited so long to disclose this? Of course it was an ego boost but frustrating as well. Why do we have so much trouble opening up to people?
Is embarrassment and fear of rejection worse than spending our whole lives thinking what could have been?
Time is not our friend. While some people wait years to pick up the courage to tell their crushes their true feelings, others can do it instantly, but at what cost?
The fear of standing naked, feelings exposed, means we always seem to act when it’s too late.
We are all searching for a soul mate. That very person could slip through your fingers if you falter. So what if you get rejected? At least you’ll know where you stand and not spend your life thinking “what if?”
So carpe diem and grasp life with both hands.