She always toes the line – he always breaks the rules. She likes rocking out in the mosh pit – he prefers chilled-out jazz and blues. She’s a morning person, he’s a night owl.
He is a couch-loving stoner, she’s a clean-living nut.
So how does these people get together? And, more to the point, how do they start together?
Experts agree that we’re attracted to the qualities of an “opposite” personality because they complete us, or balance us.

BOREDOM-FREE ZONED
Dating a carbon copy of yourself can be familiar and comfortable – you like the same food, music and style, and there’s never going to be fights for the remote control. But, after a while, it becomes a bit of yawn.
Opposite stimulate and challenge each other. There’s friction, passion and excitement which can all translate into long-term happiness.

DIFFERENT STROKES

But what happens when opposites clash (which they inevitably will?
According to a relationship consultant, each person needs to respect the other’s view, no matter how far removed it seems from their own.
Wanting your partner to agree with your look, stock and barrel smacks of control freak.
It’s OK to love one another and still have a difference of opinion. In fact, a couple can manage a lot of differences if they respect and listen to each other.
It’s when one asserts that the other is wrong that troubles appear.
Your differences aren’t the problem – it’s the way you treat one another.
For all their differences, opposites in successful relationships will almost always share core values – respect, trust, fidelity, attitudes to finances. The trick is to nurture what you have in common while staying open-minded and positive about your differences – however major they might be.
In the long run. being with an opposite can be good for the individual. It opens you both up to new experiences and perspectives.

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